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11 years! June 20, 2009

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David and I have been married 11 years today! Most of you know our story, but I love telling it, so here it is again.

We both went to Woodward summer camp in Woodward, PA, which specializes in gymnastics and BMX bike training. After working out for several hours a day, the girls would go watch the boys racing on the BMX track. We stood at the fence and cheered for no one special. However, one guy was particularly cute and I wanted to meet him. He apparently felt the same, because his friend proceeded to come over to me and tell me that he (David) liked me. Hey, I was 12, and he was 13…this is what crazy kids do. Anyway, he won one of the races and then came over to say hello after the final race for the day.

He asked me to the camp dance that Friday! We had a blast…dancing to all of the cheesy 80’s songs we all know and love/loathe…Whitney Houston, Def Leppard, Wham!…you know the deal. I can honestly say that I fell in love with him that night. We had a quick kiss that night (our firsts!) and he left that Sunday.

We exchanged letters and phone calls for the next 5 years, then he asked my to fly up to Buffalo to go to the prom (I was in NJ). Yay! After our moms talked for a long time, I was allowed to go. We had a great time at the prom (the one and only time I wore pink) and for the rest of that weekend, got to talk about our hopes and dreams. I met all of his friends, we went to the Poison concert (yikes!), and had a wonderful time hanging out with each other. I knew this was the man (boy) I would love forever.

We both graduated, went to college in different states, etc. but still wrote letters to each other. Eight years later, I had moved back to NJ and decided we should get together and visit. I was house sitting for a friend of my mother’s, so he came down and spent a week with me. It was great!  We still loved each other and decided we didn’t want to be apart again. We made trips back and forth for the next six months from Montclair to Buffalo and got engaged that Christmas. We were married six months later and have been happily married since.

What makes our marriage work is mutual respect and trust. We talk about everything, respect each others opinions even when we disagree, and genuinely love to be together.

Now we hope to add to our family through the miracle of adoption. I kept praying that David would be a father by Father’s Day this year, but I guess that wasn’t meant to be. I hope this summer brings a baby and the start of our forever family!

Thanks for a wonderful marriage, David. I love you more and more each day and I’m so thankful that we found each other all those years ago. Happy Anniversary!


A little R&R June 15, 2009

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Last week I took a week off…it was awesome! I have been working 12 hour days on a project at work, which was in the final stanges after the first week of June. I was wiped out and needed a little down time. I hadn’t had time off since Christmas, so I was due.

Although it was a “vacation”, I caught up on much-needed paperwork, design work, social work, and spent some time with friends and family. It was great! I finished a great book, worked in the garden, looked at cars (decided not to sell my Mini), painted our bedroom, and did some website design. [Petite Publishing should be up and running in July.] I’m also taking a couple more days off at the end of the month for my cousin’s baby shower in Cleveland, so I’m looking forward to that.

I am refreshed and ready to go back to work. However, I have been approached by several schools and a business with job offers recently…very tempting. I’ll keep you posted on that.


Long Weekend May 26, 2009

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It was so nice to have a long weekend! I haven’t taken a day off since New Years, so it was wonderful to have an extra day to sleep in, hang with family and friends, and work in the yard. I worked until midnight on Friday night so I could reign in some of the extra work that has been on my plate, and not have to worry about it until Tuesday. Everyone on the team has been working 10 and 11 hour days, and some weekends, to finish up a current project. My boss (and his boss) have put very unrealistic deadlines on our team and we are all burning out fast. One poor girl was working 10 hour days two days AFTER her due date for her baby!

Anyway, It was a gorgeous weekend here in Buffalo…in the high 70’s to low 80’s all weekend long, and sunny, sunny, sunny! We celebrated David’s Mom’s birthday on Saturday and enjoyed spending time with his family. David and I planted tomatoes, and I finished up the rest of the veggie garden. We also put down a fresh layer of mulch, tied up my wisteria that seems to have a mind of it’s own, and ate dinner outside every night.  LOVE IT!

Something else wonderful happened…we found we have a pair of Bluebirds living in the trees. Yay! We put up a nesting box and they seem to have found it. I’m so happy! Bluebirds are rare around here…they tend not to like heavily wooded areas, but they seem to love our trees. I caught some pictures of the male this weekend, so I’ll post them.

We also went to see Star Trek with some friends on Sunday afternoon. One work…AWESOME! If you are a Trekkie, you must go see this flick! It was non-stop from start to finish and didn’t have one wasted moment. I am a die hard fan from way back when, and was unsure if anyone could fill the shoes of Shatner and Nemoy. I shouldn’t have worried; these new, young talents were amazing! Also, this movie was directed by JJ Abrams, who directs on of my favorite shows, Fringe. It’s a sci-fi, X-Files type of show that airs on Tuesday nights. I highly recommend both!

Next up, Terminator 3 with Christian Bale. Have I mentioned how psyched I am that sci-fi has finally become popular!? 🙂





Mom's bday!

Mom's bday!


TGIF! May 15, 2009

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Well, the week is almost over. It’s been a long one…

Work is nuts right now, I’m trying to get my own side biz up and running, and I’m doing some charity work. Lots to do! However, David and I are going to go hit a few buckets of golf balls after work today. It’s going to be 70 here! YAY! It will be nice to relax and just hang out with him. Tomorrow we’ll do some yard work, then we’re helping a friend move. Sunday will be the usual…church, cleaning the house, making a nice dinner. On Monday, our social worker will be visiting to do the update on our home study. We just LOVE her and although we had hoped we would only have to go through the home study process once, we are glad we’re going to see her again.

BTW, sorry for my last post being such a downer…sometimes I just need to vent, ya know? 🙂


Lazy Eye April 17, 2009

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You know those songs that stick with you? They run through your brain all day, before you go to sleep, and still there when you wake up? Usually that’s a bad thing. However, the latest song that’s been running through my head non-stop is my new fave, and LOVE it. The song is Lazy Eye by Silversun Pickups.  It makes you want to turn the stereo up all the way and sing at the top of your lungs…which I did yesterday, by the way. I was in my Mini with the sunroof open, the tunes cranked, sunglasses on, and rocking out!

Here’s a link to the song…enjoy!

Lazy Eye


New Adoption Profile

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As I said in a previous post, we have been profiled for several adoption situations and haven’t been chosen. So I decided that we needed to try a new approach! I have completely redesigned our adoption profile. The idea is two-fold actually…

Since I’m working on starting my own biz making adoption profiles and lifebooks, I have been designing some prototypes to use as samples on my website. I am using our profile information, so people can see a “real” profile in action.  Anyway, the profile we have been using for the last year is very busy; it has a different theme/color scheme on each page spread, and every picture has a caption. There are also lots of embellishments, etc. It was very descriptive, but a bit busy. Anyway, I started thinking about how it must feel to be a birthmom faced with 7-10 of these books when she is going through a very difficult time in her life. She is probably overwhelmed and reading all of those birthmother letters, checking out captions, looking at all of those faces…well, it’s probably enough to make he head spin. So…my approach this time is “keep it simple”.

The new profile has a consistent theme, and our birthmother letter is spread throughout the book. I updated some pictures by adding in a few fun ones, and there are no captions on the pictures. The birthmom needs to know we are loving, happy, and have lots of people we love in our lives. The pictures speak for themselves.

When I went to Office max to get them printed, the designer commented on how nice they were! That made me feel really good about them. They are also going to be good samples to use on the company site, once I’m up and running. Yay!

If you want to check it out, there’s a link to the download in the right margin of this page (green box). The first one is the uncompressed version, but the file is pretty large. If you can’t accommodate the large file, the second one is compressed and very tiny. However, the images and graphics aren’t as clear, but you’ll get the picture. Let me know what you think!



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Well, last Friday was my birthday. It’s usually uneventful. However, if nothing else, I insist on having a cake. It’s the one day a year where it’s your prerogative to eat your favorite kind, and as much as you want! David gets me a little Carvel ice cream cake. I have loved those ever since I was a kid!

Anyway, this birthday was nice – David’s parents took me to dinner at Mangia and I had lobster ravioli. Soooo good! I also got the coolest gift EVER! David bought be a Wii and the Wii Fit!!! YAY! I love this thing! I use the Fit every morning- I love the yoga and the balance training- and David and I have played tennis and golf just about every night this week. This is the coolest video game thing ever and you don’t have to learn a thousand combinations of buttons to play. You just move as if you were playing the sport for real, and your little guy on the screen moves with you. Those of you in the neighborhood have got to come over and check this out! I even lost 3 pounds this week!

I wonder if this thing has a Jarts game? 🙂