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Adoption Language July 10, 2009

Filed under: Adoption — My Dysfunctional Life @ 8:37 am

The way we talk—and the words we choose—say a lot about what we think and value.  When we use positive adoption language, we say that adoption is a way to build a family just as birth is.  Both are important, but one is not more important than the other.

Choose the following positive adoption language instead of the negative talk that helps perpetuate the myth that adoption is second best.  By using positive adoption language, you’ll reflect the true nature of adoption, free of innuendo.

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Words not only convey facts, they also evoke feelings.  When a TV movie talks about a “custody battle” between “real parents” and “other parents,” society gets the wrong impression that only birthparents are real parents and that adoptive parents aren’t real parents.  Members of society may also wrongly conclude that all adoptions are “battles.”

Positive adoption language can stop the spread of misconceptions such as these.  By using positive adoption language, we educate others about adoption.  We choose emotionally “correct” words over emotion-laden words.  We speak and write in positive adoption language with the hopes of impacting others so that this language will someday become the norm.


4 Responses to “Adoption Language”

  1. Yaya Says:

    I really like this chart. Might I still it for my blog? I get a lot of well-intentioned comments that are actually filled with negative language.

  2. Gina Says:

    Very helpful. Thank you for posting : )

  3. Maru Says:

    Nice post! I’d love to steal it for my blog too!! 😉

  4. Adam Says:

    Thanks for the great post! My body is screaming for some stress reduction with just
    3 weeks left of grad school… I shared this
    on Facebook in case my friends wanted to see. Thanks!

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