Original post: Wednesday, February 27, 2008
Last night was the first of five mandatory adoption classes at our agency, Adoption STAR. We met 6 other couples who are going through the same process and talked with a woman who was adopted as a baby, as well as just having adopted her own.
The topic was how to talk to your child about adoption, and how to validate their feelings regarding their birth-family. We did a few group exercises and had open discussion about the “what-if’s”…such as, “What if the child says I’m not their real mom?” and, “When do I bring up the subject of adoption?” The conversations were fascinating, and I learned a lot. The bottom line was to always talk about adoption, even as babies, so they never know a time where they DIDN’T know they were adopted. Honesty is the best policy!
We also turned in much of our paperwork last night…all of the clearances, borth/marriage certificates, etc. Now we’re working on earning credits and getting medical and tax information down.
In the meantime, I’m working on our “profile”, which is a scrapbook of your family which the birth-mother uses to “pick” you to raise her baby. YIPPEE!!!
I’ll keep you posted!